Carve Out Your Own Place

by Marc Gottesdiener 10/13/2019

Ego, Latin for “I,” in other words, self. The part that makes up your psyche, or how you see yourself. It is that sense of who you are that you carry through your life. History has long wondered if ego is an ingrained part of your DNA; something you are born with. There is a general regard today; however that your environment has a tremendous amount of influence on your self-image or self-esteem. What you think of yourself and how you relate to the world around you, have everything to do with your ego. 

Your Place in This World

The environment you lived in while you were young, dependent on others to provide for you the basics for a living was not in your control. The home you lived in, the clothes you wore and even the school and activities you were involved in were, for the most part, dictated to you. Often those circumstances provided you with a sense of who was, good or bad. You may have developed a healthy self-image that afforded you the skills and abilities to take on challenges and problem solve with little effort. Or you may have experienced adverse situations that left you with a feeling of lack and insecurities. What you carry into your life as an adult can significantly influence your life decisions. 

Carve Out Your Own Place

As you move out into the world and more of your decisions rest only on you to make, the crossroads of how you see yourself appears. Here is where you choose to allow your current self-image to continue to be shaped and molded by your past. Or, you can recognize the opportunity to become the most significant influence in your own life. Who you surround yourself with can help or hurt you in this process. Be aware of how others influence your self-esteem. What you watch and listen to has a tremendous effect on how you process information, form opinions and express emotions. As the old computer saying goes “garbage in, garbage out.” You determine what’s garbage, based on what outcome you desire. You want a healthy, positive ego; then be aware of what gives you positive mental information, thoughts, and emotions. 

This week make a point to spend some time with someone who brings out the best of you

About the Author
Author

Marc Gottesdiener

As a full service real estate company with over three and half decades of licensed experience and expertise, Marc Gottesdiener & Co., Inc. handles all aspects of both commercial & residential real estate assignments including appraisals, rentals, listings, building rehabilitation, consultation, expert in litigation, court testimony, & other real estate asset services especially in Connecticut. Marc Gottesdiener himself has owned over one hundred twenty units and these properties have been in 4 New England states, and the company has managed hundreds of units in Hartford and beyond for a diversified base of clients and types of properties. Use objective experience in solving real estate problems. As an appraiser, Marc is a certified general for both residential and commercial appraisals and has provided expert court testimony in all eight Connecticut counties. In addition, Marc routinely works with the Connecticut Superior Courts (on over 250 cases) in providing appraisals and court testimony for various property matters, foreclosures, divorce, bankruptcy, partition suits, and other litigious matters. His firm can represent as an agent & manager for landlords from out of state. Over the decades Marc has handled many difficult real estate situations, and to negotiate settlements to provide creative & equitable solutions. Read more about our company here.